Thursday, July 14, 2011
I have to say, that Carolyn Hax is the columnist I tend to agree with the most. She isn't particularly religious and doesn't exhibit any type of bias or specific world view. Most of her readers tend to write about relationships (on her blog) and her responses quite often display an incredible ability to dissect the relationship issue and expose the truth of the situation. Moreover, she's very direct and can even be confrontational with her readers when she thinks they need a wake-up call. (I'm particularly fond of that approach!)
But there are other times when I read these advice columnists and want to scream. Dear Abby and Ann Landers have both printed some real clunkers in my opinion. In fact, I can confess to having written to both of them at one time or another to take them to task for the crappy advice that they dispensed. As you might imagine though, such letters were never acknowledged, and I'm not aware that they ever printed a retraction or even offered to add my brilliant perspective to what they'd already printed. (So I don't plan to spend much time trying to hold them accountable in the future!)
The thing is, the more I read these columns, the more convinced I am that I could be an especially good, popular and effective advice columnist. With all humility, let me just say that I am more in touch with reality than some of these so-called advice columnists are. Really, I am!
Let's look at one example that I read this week. A woman wrote in about a trip she is planning to take with her fiance. He's from France and is taking her home to meet the relatives. However, he's a tall man and is not comfortable in coach class, so he's purchased a business class ticket for himself and a coach class ticket for his fiance. The woman is irked about this and finds it so disturbing that she doesn't even want to go at all. She implored him to suck it up and sit with her in coach, but he refused. So she wrote to ask for advice.